Comparison is the thief of Joy

Comparison steals our joy. And we don’t want anything stealing our joy because after all… JOY is the highest energy of all. In order to attract abundance we need to stay centred in a feeling of Joy. When we compare to others, we often end up feeling worse in ourself, thinking we should be further along on our path by now. Whether it’s a job we want, a relationship, children, a house… These days especially we have so much more access to seeing what other people are doing via social media and so that means we have more widespread and frequent opportunities to negatively compare ourselves to others and feel bad about ourselves when we compare and compete.

However, I firmly believe we are all here for a divine reason and a unique soul path. We do not need to compare ourselves to others. We do not need to judge ourselves for not yet accomplishing something we’ve wanted for so long.

So often I’ve resisted what presented on my life path. This resistance caused suffering.

When something unwanted happened, I’d frustratingly ask, ‘Why is this happening?, why are things I don’t want repeatedly showing up? why can’t I just get what I want now!, why does everyone else seem to have some things in life and I don’t..…”

I wanted to control it, for things to go MY way and to MY timeline. When it didn’t, I’d lose patience and get lost in the overthinking and feeling sad and low. Adding social media into the mix didn’t help! As we can log on and see others posting their successes and often, this can result in all kinds of feelings and emotions about ourselves. These days instead of frustrating myself further, I seek the lesson and learning in each new situation I encounter. Rather than asking, “why did this happen?” I ask, “what is this teaching me?”

P a t i e n c e .

My meditation and yoga practice helped me cultivate patience. Release and surrender to what is. Trust, that maybe, just maybe, it’s all working out and happening exactly the way it’s meant to. I don’t have to add unnecessary stress into the mix.

Patience definitely has not always been my strong point and through my yoga practice I’ve gained more patience and acceptance however, it is still very much a work in progress. The day you plant the seed is not the day you reap the rewards. One of the reasons we’re so stressed out today is because we believe everything needs to happen right now. We forget that everything happens in perfect timing.

Like the saying “You reap what you sow”, sooner or later all that you do and think comes back to you in some way. Be it positive or negative. We really do have the power to choose our thoughts. You reap the fruits of what you have sown. Therefore why not abundantly fill your life with light and love, for all those seeds of light you sow, you will harvest the greatest richness. It is always darkest before the dawn and just before a break comes, things often feel the hardest.

Don’t give up!

Know what you want, work towards it, whether it is a thought or feeling or job, plant your seeds in faith and then let it go and trust. What you seek is seeking you. Keep having faith and believing and remember:

What’s not meant for you you cannot keep and what’s meant for you you cannot keep away. Trust and all is coming. Trust, and if it’s meant to be, it will be yours.

Just because other people have some things in their life now, things I’d also like, doesn’t mean it isn’t going to happen for me too, in divine timing. Things don’t go to our timeline, but to the divine universal timing. Some say: God’s plan.

Surrender

When I first heard this word I feared that it meant giving up or losing control or something along those lines. But no. Surrender means to release what we tightly cling to and let things flow and happen the way they’re meant to.

So often we block ourselves as we get stuck wanting things to work our way. Instead, we’d be better getting out of our own way and letting things unfold the way they’re divinely meant to.

Things don’t always arrive in our timing (much to my younger self’s dismay) but to the divine plan of the universe, source, God or whoever you believe in. I don’t know where I’d be only for my faith and trust in the universe. And that it truly does have our back.

My Advice

The more I reflect on this and the more I look back on my life I see why everything had to happen the way it did. I’m at peace because I know I wouldn’t be who I am now only for those life experiences. Continue to seek the lessons in every difficult or painful situation you encounter.

Truth is, I’d never have known how capable I am or how much I can get through. The younger me wouldn’t have believed it, honestly.

Journaling exercise

Reflect back over the past 10 years of your life. If 10 is too much, start with the past 5 years, or even the past year. Think back over the difficult situations you encountered. Did they teach you anything about yourself? About life? Write down what happened and what you learned. Maybe you’d like to even take it a step further and write some advice you’d give to someone else going through something similar. Maybe it’s a loss of a loved one, a relationship breakup.

Author: Dee Walsh